I had this epiphany just a couple years ago. Like, I’m too much for 1 person to handle. Too much for me to handle, lol. This is where the importance of understanding roles is crucial. I know even the people that love my energy, can only handle so much. I’ve learned to dish it out. And I’m particular about who I give what. And that is the same for taking energy. I seek out what I need from the people and places that it needs to come from. A little bit here, a little bit there and I can be filled to the brim! If I bombard only 1 person, they get overwhelmed. Just like I do when someone dumps on me! Roles – what roles do the people in your life play? Are they all energy takers? Where do you get good, positive energy freely?
I have separate categories, depending on need. If need to belly laugh like a hyena, I know where to go. If I need a hug and a comforting ear, I know who I’m calling. If I need someone to be straight up with me, I got that number too. Stop thinking your significant other is YOUR EVERYTHING. They’re not supposed to be! Especially, NOT your therapist!!! There are trained professionals to help guide you. Keep you accountable for your actions and give a safe place to vent.
“Know Thy Self” – Socrates
You want better relationships? Start asking yourself:
💥 What role does this person play in my life?
💥 Do they energize or drain me?
💥 Am I expecting too much from just one person?
💥 Where do I go to refill myself—with joy, truth, softness, and laughter?
We are multi-faceted humans. It’s okay to have different people for different needs. In fact, it’s healthy.
“Laughing without Love is cold and cruel, laughing with love is joy and happiness”- Dr. Gladys McGarey
So know your needs. Know your people. Know your limits.
And don’t be afraid to say:
💫 “I’m a lot. But I’m learning how to share myself with intention.”